Making Privilege and Power Visible

I must say that black women are mis-represented all the time. All the names that people call them is just wild to me. I even hate when my friends call them, sorry to say, bitches. I just feel like it is so disrespectful. Especially coming from a family of all aunts and really no uncles. It hurts me to hear that because that is how they refer to all women, and I wouldn't want anyone calling my sister, mom, grandma, or aunts that word. I can't say that I haven't called it how I see it though. I sometimes must say I have looked at a girl and off that back called her a bussa. A bussa is a girl that will have sex with anyone, and I feel like if you dress yourself to look like that and carry yourself like it then that is what you lable yourself as. If I know you are a hoe, then I will call you a hoe. I don't just go out and call our black women names that is not deserved for them. My names don't refer to just blacks but can go to all nationalities. Even though I love rap music, I feel that they have made alot of people comfortable to call our black women what they want to, but the black girls love the music so the males feel its alrite and they let us. I don't agree with all the stuff said in the Collins book because I don't here much of those words being referred to women. I do though agree on the way that people prefer lighterskinned girls now days. I myself even like lighskinned girls more then dark, I don't know why. I guess I just want a girl to look as far away different then my mom and sister I can. I have nothing against darker women thought because if you are beautiful then that is what you are. I was shocked to find out that a black girl that is lighter is more able to get the job from a darker girl. But the most name calling is women against women, so if they respect each other more I think that men will follow.